Friendship is Soulship

True friendship is one of life’s rare rewards.  It can be said that a man with one friend is a wealthy man and a man with 1000 acquaintances is a poor man.

Friendship demands something of us — that we reveal ourselves, self-sacrifice, and be loyal.  It is not passive, but active.  You must be a friend — not just have them.  Your friends tell something about who you are.

We live in a society today that’s more isolated, yet connected (through Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, blogs, etc.)  If we continue on this path of “virtual” friendship, we could find that our lives are more lonely, more meaningless.

Loneliness Is Not Good

In Genesis 2:18, God said it is not good for man to be alone.  It is a burden to go through life without friends.  God created us in His image and God knows fellowship, intimacy and relationships.

Loneliness Leads To Meaninglessness

Loneliness is not good because eventually it will always lead to a life of meaninglessness.  If you are a person without friends, you will come to the end of your life and say it was not worth it.

Friendship Multiplies Strength

In Ecc 4:9-12, there is one general principle:  Having friends is better than being friendless because friends multiply rewards and divide losses.  True friends give more than they take.  There are 3 specific applications of what friends do:

  1. Friends strengthen us in times of weakness (Ecc 4:10).  Who do you have or lean on when life gets too hard?
  2. Friends provide for us in times of need (Ecc 4:11).  Who would you call when you have a need?  “Friendship is a sheltering tree.” (Samuel Taylor Coleridge)
  3. Friends protect us in times of danger (Ecc 4:12).

The one universal proverb is that friends multiply strength.  “A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.” (Ecc 4:12).  In light of all this, there are three things to do:  1) Make new friends, 2) Keep old friends, 3) Be a good friend.

Your friends are a reflection of you and in that, friendship becomes “soulship.”  He who has 1 true and good friend commands the strength of a 1000 souls.

Who do you have and what are you doing to keep your friendships in constant repair?